Embracing all aspects of who we are…

As I glance around my little apartment here in Club la santa, it looks like I’ve lived here for ages, and that I am a single messy female!

The entire of me is scattered about the flat…

I have always had a tendency when alone to splash myself all about; it is a habit that thankfully I manage when sharing space with another… I do this by mentally apportioning sections of the bathroom, the bedroom and living room to me; so that the splash is contained without impacting on the tidy person I am with…

Anadi is a techy being and has all his wires perfectly coiled; I love to see it… It makes such sense, and is very pleasing to the eye. But I am a splashy colour person – it suits my energy and perhaps rather unexpectedly, there is order for me within the splash…  Anadi by contrast is is a neat Zen white walls and silver surfaces person…

But we both like and admire the difference in the other; we celebrate the expression, the energy that comes out of each of us, and is then made manifest in the way we do things…

We are all different, and we all have different energetic expressions and vibrations… The most important thing is to resist thinking that our way is the right way; or making up stories about what the expression of another might mean…

Criticism can happen if there are wounds within the expression… If we are behaving in a certain way as an act of rebellion or making a statement… The irony is that we will often get criticised for this ‘adaptation’, and so the pattern persists of pushing back and rebelling…

Or maybe we are witnessing another living out our own disowned, hidden or lost self… Our expression is devoid of that aspect, because early in our life we unconsciously or consciously decided our life would work better without it… If this is the case we can find ourselves either strongly despising the way of the other, or yearning to be like them…

We all want to be whole and who we truly are – and so our heart will keep calling to us in a myriad of ways, until we listen and take note…. Whenever there is a strong feeling then it is an arrow to an inner hurt within us to be healed and loved –  or an aspect of ourselves which needs reclaiming and loving…

Anadi and I have both said that if we did ever own a base again, we would need to have to have two – next door to each other – so that Anadi could have white empty Zen space, and I could live in an an explosion in a paint factory!

The key is that we celebrate the differences in one another, and recognise that different situations, places, countries, climates and people can all reflect and uncover unclaimed parts of ourselves to be loved and embraced…

If we find ourselves animatedly talking about our love of art – say – with one friend, and yet in other situations this energy isn’t accessed, then rather than deem the other place ‘not enough’, it is worth investigating what aspects are accessed in the other space and enquire why our energy resonates there… Is it something we recognise we desire to clear or to expand and embrace within us…?

We are such colourful multifaceted beings that a position of wonder and curiosity at how we are in different contexts, and in different relationships allows us to reclaim ourselves and love ourselves in our entirety, as well as keeping open to getting to know ourselves and one another more and more deeply without projection, fear or judgement…

True love is patient and kind…

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