Celebrating similarity, difference and change…

Anadi and I arrived here in Ilfracombe on Monday evening, we were met by our host who wasn’t wearing shoes! ‘Barefoot’ I exclaimed as if I were greeting one of my tribe… ‘I’m always getting told off for it’ he laughed… ‘No no…’ I continued; ‘I’m a barefooter too…’ I didn’t realise until that moment that I had a ‘title’ or a way of defining myself… Like ‘I’m a runner’, or ‘I’m a writer’ or a ‘healer..’ Or, ‘I’m an anything at all…’ or even ‘I’m a man’ or maybe a woman…

Defining ourselves can instantly box us in, make us contained… Because definitions by their nature have a whole string of thoughts, ideas, descriptions, associations that go with them, which – even more beguilingly can be very accurate too.

Many years ago, I was working as a personal trainer… I drove a little black fiat panda – rather too fast – around Sussex! In the back I carried a rebounder, a step up box, dumbbells, bar bells, skipping rope and whatever else you can think of that might help me construct a training session for my clients…!

I was blond, slim and fit… I often wore a shiny pink of aqua shell suit – they were all the rage then… And ate muesli for breakfast… I read a funny spoof article at the time on PT’s… Of course I fitted the description completely, even down to the fiat panda!

And yet if you had lined us all up – the PT’s that fitted much of the description, we might share some characteristics that we would recognise in one another, but beyond this particular ‘energetic play out’ in our lives, of course there was more.

Different people resonate and vibrate with similar frequencies of course, which can lend itself to ‘grouping us together’ into ‘man group’, ‘female group’, ‘barefoot group’, ‘sporty group’ ‘theatrical group’…  But this is only useful as a way to discover more, uncover more, bounce of and investigate with the other similar energies, so that we might know ourselves more.

Because similarities and finding someone else feels the same, understands us, has had the same mountains to climb, ‘gets it’ can be very liberating and freeing to continue down the path of our own truth…

Each of us is unique…

But like everything there is a yin to this yang, where groups are trapped into being ‘teenagers’ or ‘hippies’ or ‘barefooters’ 🙂 and the connotations that can be associated can be limiting…

So… What to do?

Be absolutely aware in every moment of when the liberation of feeling recognised and part of something… The synergy and growth that can feel wonderful, turns to feeling trapped and stuck, limited by the title, or held in by the projections and expectations of others to ‘be a certain way’…

When the truth might be, that you want to change from being a man to being a woman, from running to writing, from marriage to being single, from wearing shoes to being barefoot and back again….

The key is to listen to your own truth… This way all aspects of you can be embraced; the recognition in another can be fun and it can be confusing also in seeing something we haven’t seen before, or don’t understand… The conversations from these episodes can be expansive and liberating; both when we see similarities in another and also when we see the differences…

When we recognise that nothing is static and we are only trying to make meaning of ‘energy’, which always has the possibility to transmute transform; shift and change and for something entirely new to appear…

Later on…

Jane joined us… Anadi and I had driven into town for some supper… I had sent Jane the post code, but by mistake I had put an R instead of an E – and of course her sat nav started to take her to Basingstoke! Luckily I had told her where we were… By the statue called Verity, so she found us and all was well…!

We had all planned some months ago to meet here to watch Josie compete in an ironman triathlon… Josie is one of the Zen runners and her ironman was cancelled… But we decided we would come along anyway as she lives nearby…

The funniest thing is that Josie is now in Sweden… But we are having a wonderful time here, celebrating our friendship with Josie and also the truth of flowing with what is; we know our paths will cross again and the ironman brought Anadi Jane and I here…

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