We know not the path another treads…

Anadi and I were ‘running across Gozo’ to Xlendi, all of 6 miles away… But we had arrived somewhere in the middle of the island, and definitely did not know which way to turn.

A friendly lady gave us very clear directions and then said… ‘You’re barefoot’! By way of explanation I said ‘Yes, I like it…’ and then carried on ‘I was born barefoot..’

This made us all laugh; but of course we were all born barefoot and our feet were designed to work well and carry us around without shoes. Some protection for uneven and ouchie ground and the cold is all that is really needed; and being in touch with the energy of the earth is said to have very beneficial effects on our body… The negative charge gives us loads of positive electrons serving as a good supply of antioxidants…

But this still doesn’t mean being barefoot is for everyone…

The path we all tread is completely unique, and it isn’t for us to project that we know which way another ‘should’ or ‘could’ go… We do not know the path another treads…

Of course there are ways that seem to be quite universal, we need to eat and sleep and drink water to survive in a human body – and breathe. We need to breathe…

But once again, we cannot truly comment on the choices another makes, as we don’t know the experiences their soul is here to experience… This whole illusion is a play on the stage of life, and we’re here to play… Sometimes quite violently and dramatically it appears – but the cycles of drama go round and round, so something is going on – even if it makes no sense to us at all…

I learnt a lot in my early 20’s when I ran my fitness centre; I learnt that people were going to ‘do it their way’, and so in setting fitness programmes the best thing was to create it to truly suit them, the amount they were genuinely likely to consistently do – whether that be once a week, three times a week or every day… And to truly find out the kind of exercises they were more likely to keep doing… I would also always enquire as to whether they really wanted to give up smoking, eating lots of cake and chocolate – rather than ever suggest they did. And if they didn’t, then work with the truth of their lifestyle.

I learnt to flow with my clients, and to work ‘with them’ from a very young age. I remember one lady very well, I can visualise her, although I can’t remember her name – she was in her late 50’s and had survived pretty well on drinking pretty much only brandy; she didn’t really drink anything else…

‘What else is there to drink?’ she had enquired… I tentatively suggested water, or maybe juice? She wasn’t very interested… But gently gently added a little bit of water to her diet… And quite liked it too!

In the end, people are going to do what they do. Sometimes, a person gets a health scare and completely changes their life; others carry on as before. Sometimes we are inspired by something another person does or says – and that point is a moment of change for us – like me seeing the barefooted surfers running on the beach… At other times, we just watch and carry on as we are…

I learnt very young that I wasn’t an authority on anything; but that I did have an ability to encourage others to be their own authority and to connect more to their own path, however less travelled or wayward it might appear to be… I was – I am –  good at helping others love themselves more and see themselves more clearly…

From a space of loving ourselves more, whatever we do or don’t do feels much better… !

Anadi and I ran ‘Barefoot across Gozo’ to Xlendi and back… Thirteen miles in all and then drove to Dwejra for lunch… This was the site of the famous Azure window… An enormous rock formation where the sea had created a huge window; but a few months ago it just fell into the sea one evening and now there is just the rock face left.

Gone in a moment, everything changed forever….