Namaste… The spirit in me honours the spirit in you

I believe I have now just about mastered how to say ‘Thank you’ in Turkish, but it doesn’t really seem to matter anymore… We now have made new friends who know what I am trying to say and immediately say the Turkish equivalent of the ‘de nada’; ‘you’re welcome’ return without trying to correct me or help me in my Turkish pronunciation development anymore…!

I have discovered that Huseyin, my ‘mixed treatment massage therapist’ can also say ‘See you tomorrow…’ So we have a little addition to our conversation of ‘Hello’ and later on in our hour together… ‘Turn over…’

But being here, without much language reminds me again that communication and relationship is fundamentally about connecting and relating first from the heart and soul; language is then the opportunity to deepen and expand our relating together…

It can be so creative to use words, they can add so much to our connections, but they also hold the possibility to hurt and wound, a poisoned chalice when what is said isn’t the truth; or isn’t what a person is thinking, let alone what their heart wants to say.

And so not speaking and just being together; properly looking at one another, eye gazing, connecting, feeling, sensing, touching can close any divides that language might bring.

I feel very known by Huseyin as he works on my body each day, there is a familiarity – a relationship.

Adding words can of course open so much and serve to deepen connection… But it can also provide the wedges we put between us as we discover that we have different beliefs, the different values and ideas about life, and instead of opening to them and validating them we deem them odd, bad, wrong, ‘not like us’ – and so a gulf can appear.

But of course with conscious and intentional use of speaking and listening, then language can serve to open and expand our relating in magical ways… Whether that be through the written word, or through dialogue…

By committing to clearing every shard of ‘reactivity’ that arises in the face of the actions or words of another; we are in a position to speak from clarity and wisdom… This doesn’t mean condoning acts of cruelty, violence or wrong doing… But it does mean clearing from within us any energy of violence or cruelty which may arise in the face of witnessing these events…

And clearing anger hurt disappointment when there has been no wrong doing – but simply our own way of how we see a situation, or receiving the words or actions of another – which may have had no malice in them at all – which touched some unresolved memory or pain deep inside…

It is all to do with us…

All that is occurring around us is to do with us…

And so again, while I am here connecting to people more through the warmth of human connection than language, it allows me to see into the eyes and heart of others and know there is no separation…

I have a relationship with one young woman here, born of us being together when her mother was not happy about something… I was waiting to ask a question about the internet… Her mother moved in front of me and expressed in extremely angry words (which I didn’t understand) how unhappy she was, to the lady who was there to answer our queries.

I was waiting and watching the theatre of life unfolding, when her daughter (I’ve made up it was her daughter! The younger woman) who was trying to placate her, caught my eye and we smiled.

Since then we have seen one another a few times – and smiled, with a bond formed of our brief encounter…

And on Saturday Anadi and I will be gone; we touched down and felt the Turkish earth beneath our feet, we have a feeling for the people here, we have engaged to the level we can and enjoyed the camaraderie when buying Turkish Coffee or asking for directions on yet another ‘Julia and Anadi special not getting to where we were meant to sight seeing tour’!

And the biggest thing I notice still, wherever I travel is the similarities, rather than the differences – I enjoy the differences, celebrate in them – but at the essential core level of us all, I see the same spark… Human beings, being human; making their way through this maze called life.

Seeking to see the spirit of ourselves in the spirit of another – Namaste – is a way for us all to truly be together…