Freedom…

Today as I was running on one of my traditional loops here from my brother’s home, barefoot now of course – when a man in a lorry stopped…

I thought he was going to ask the way but I was wrong – he was checking I was okay… The weather was a bit cold and perhaps it looks slightly more odd in worse conditions running down a road without any shoes on, than when the sun is shining…

I was able to communicate with lots of smiling and thumbs ups that I was okay… It is wonderful how essentially for really important things, or when we really want to communicate we can…

We can gesture to one another; sign and smile – look unhappy or happy – we can ‘say’ how we are feeling, and what we want…

Of course this is going on coupled with conversation anyway… Body language, facial expressions, gestures are all an integral part of how we are connecting with one another. It is important to be aware of what another is receiving through our gestures and our facial expression… As well of course as our tone, which makes a huge difference to the energy of what we are saying..

But it is signs gestures and facial expressions we are exploring here… Culturally there are differences, but by checking and watching and staying very connected and present to ourselves and to the other we can connect and communicate without a word being spoken…

A look of disapproval or a smile can give a message to another, but it may not be what we think it is… So once again we come to the place of being prepared to slow everything down; to notice, to check to ask, to inquire…

But deeper than this is to clear our own energy field; because the most profound way we communicate with one another is through our energy and this is where the truthful communication springs from… It isn’t uncommon for the words not to match the inner state… A place of peace both for the person communicating, and for the one receiving is when the words we utter match our inner state…

This way dialogue and conversation slows down… When we are not ‘reacting’ to another, we are able to stay present, still, silent inside and there is all the time in the world to check that what we are communicating is being received as we intended – and that we are not taking offence or closing down in any way to the other…

Of course this doesn’t mean that we accept abuse, but if we are not ‘reacting’ to it, it becomes far easier to simply move away from it…

When we react we are immediately caught in a cycle…

Freedom comes when we feel no inner tightening, any upset; when we don’t react at all… We don’t react to gestures, to facial expressions, to tone of voice, to the words spoken…

All these things can act as triggers, intentionally or unintentionally communicated by another. When we are free from reactivity we never cut of the lines of communication; firstly to ourselves, because when we react we cut off love to ourselves and it follows , the other…

When we are working to heal the wounds, to clear the pain it is important to notice everything… Even if the trigger happens in our car, or in a shop – smaller things as well as the bigger issues; in global events and in our personal relationships…

This is not to do with not caring, it is recognising that the place beyond opinion or agenda is a far more effective and healthy place to share our energy, to communicate from, to live from…

And certainly we must have no agenda of trying to ‘get anywhere…’ But to simply keep noticing and pressing the pause button to reflect on our own lesson; our own healing, our own clearing…

And gradually we will be in situations that previously upset us, and there will only be silence within, and we are free…

I have found that more inner silence within frees me to keep journeying, no holding back… The very thing I was afraid of in being more visible in the world, in allowing my voice to be heard, was of being somehow told I was ‘wrong’… And now I feel no fear…

As I rounded another bend on my run, an old lady was walking along leaning on a stick…

‘Courage’, she called…